Christian affair recovery and where does our faith come in?
Some may ask, why do I have a faith page on this website and what is “christian affair recovery”?
I decided to add a faith page to this site for a few reasons.
Although I will probably take some heat for it, I felt it was important to share the whole truth of my story with you, as God was the source of my own christian affair recovery. I would be remiss not to share the whole story of how God was instrumental in healing and restoring our marriage as well.
How God helped me get over my affair.
To back track a bit, I had decided to fully commit my life to Jesus at the age of seventeen. I spent many years close to God and loved reading his word. It was only after slipping in my prayer time and not filling my mind with His word that I began my slippery, but gradual, slope to infidelity.
First, my personal experience is that I would not have been healed in my heart, been able to forgive myself, and have the strength needed to let go of the affair, if I didn’t have God helping me. God is the one who took the desire for this other man out of my heart when I couldn’t do it by myself. I know it was God because once I finally asked Him to take it from me, I felt a release and was able to let go. whereas before, it was extremely difficult to do on my own. God also was the glue we needed to bind our marriage together as we began to pray daily together. He also helped my husband to forgive me and replace the anger with compassion much sooner than I think he would have on his own. That is what I mean by having a Christian Affair Recovery.
Although I am not proud of the fact that I was a Christian woman before I had an affair, I am willing to be real and honest in the hopes that other Christian women will not hide in shame and get the help from God that He offers.
Guilt and shame are the biggest obstacles to receiving forgiveness and living authentically.
One of the biggest hurdles I’ve personally had to get over after my affair, is the guilt and shame I had. It has been very difficult to forgive myself and one of the biggest statements of condemnation I kept hearing in my head was “how can you be a Christian and have an affair?” Or, “your sin is worse because you KNEW God before you had an affair, unlike others who may not have been Christians until afterwards.” It’s honestly, still a struggle for me to even understand my own actions and I sometimes still allow shame to come in again.
Yes, Satan will do all he can to keep us in our pit of shame and guilt. I felt like I was a hypocrite.
The thing is, those lies are true to some degree.
Yes, It is awful that I knew God and still was unfaithful.
I thought I would never do such a thing because I was a Christian.
I believe that pride in my own faith and my own strength, not in God’s strength, added to my ability to fall.
It also proved to me that anyone can sin in ways they never thought they were capable of before. Sometimes we get prideful and think we are above doing certain things, until we fall into doing them. Even David, who was a man after God’s heart and loved God, committed adultery with Bathsheba. That’s not to excuse our sin, but to show that we are all capable. I truly believe it is when we say in our hearts “I WOULD NEVER DO THAT…” that we are indeed at our most vulnerable of falling. Then we get caught in the trap the enemy has set for us and getting free becomes very difficult to do on our own.
Only God can truly free us from whatever trap we’ve gotten into, if we want to be freed bad enough.
So I hope you’ll join me on this journey of faith, I don’t claim to know all the answers, but will just offer some observations, scriptures and devotions as we seek healing from our past.
If you’d like to learn more about how to have a relationship with Jesus, you can follow this link to my How to know God page.
I’d also love to hear suggestions or questions about faith that we can explore together. Just fill out on the form below.
God Bless you on your journey to find healing and hope in your own heart and for your marriage.