Are you tired of the break-up merry go-round
you’ve been on with your affair?
I see you there, trying over and over again to end your affair,
yet you still find yourself going back.
Maybe you’ve tried for weeks, months or even years to end
this affair for good.
On the one hand, you feel like he’s your soul mate,
or even your best friend.
You feel like you have a connection
like you’ve never experienced before-
and you don’t think you can ever break free of that….
or at least that’s what your mind is telling you.
Maybe it’s not as much “fun” as it was at first.
The few stolen moments in parks, or behind store parking lots is getting old.
You’re getting tired of waiting for his texts and the excuses of why he couldn’t.
And the shame and guilt is piling on your shoulders like a 50 lb weight,
and growing with each passing day.
Hiding your phone and keeping your story straight is weighing on you.
Wondering who you’ve become.
“How did I end up here? How do I end an affair?”
You ask yourself when you look at the mirror in the morning.
“Who really am I anymore?”
You might even be a Christian woman, which adds to your shame.
If he’s married, you try not to think of her.
Or the kids that call him Dad, waiting for him to walk through the door
at the end of the day.
You convince yourself he’s really not happy at home, like he’s told you before.
The jealousy is all consuming some days,
although you know you haven’t a right to feel it.
But it’s still nagging at your soul.
You know you’re not a terrible person-
although you’re starting to wonder if that’s really true anymore.
You’re certain the whole world would gladly smack a big scarlet A on your chest,
if they found out the truth about the life you’ve been living.
This is not where you expected to be at this point in your life.
Maybe you’ve been married for a long time yourself, or not very long at all.
Perhaps you’re the other woman who is single-
or maybe your affair partner is the single one waiting for you.
No matter the specifics of your story,
or how it differs from mine
or other women’s stories-
But I know one thing for sure. I know you’ve had pain.
We can’t participate in adultery and not be burned.
But you know that already.
Your soul is crying out to you to stop the madness already.
You’re tired, and not sure how much more of this you can take.
The thought of letting him go, and not even staying friends, feels like torture.
But the thought of continuing like this is even more torturous.
You’re tired of crying.
You’re tired of waiting for his texts; or to have available time for you.
Tired of settling for breadcrumbs, or leftovers.
Hating the woman you’ve become…
These thoughts give you enough courage to end it- again.
So you call him, and tell him it’s over.
You explain you’re an emotional wreck,
trying to keep your stories straight,
and tired of hiding out like some kind of criminal.
“It’s over”.
He’s upset. But he’s heard a rendition of this before.
You know he doesn’t really believe you.
You’re not even sure if YOU believe you.
But still, you say what you need to say to break it off.
You worry about him, and wonder how he’ll be once it’s over.
Maybe he asks for “one more time”… one last hour at the park,
one last drive, or hug.
And depending on how many trips around this
break up merry-go-round you’ve been on,
will determine your answer to him.
Tears soak your face.
Your eyes are bloodshot from crying,
and you don’t think you can cry another drop.
You can’t help but wonder-
“Why is this so different than other break-ups I had when I was younger?”
“What is the hold this affair has over me?”
Then he calls you…and you decide to answer, just for closure.
And the whole thing starts all over again.
Does this sound familiar?
It was my story, too. you can hear the podcast of me speaking here.
Maybe you can identify with parts of it, being like your story too.
If you’re tired of this “break up merry go round”, and you want off for good,
then it’s going to require you to do something different than what you’ve always done.
Like they say “if you do what you’ve always done,
you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
That is so true in affairs too.
13 years ago, I was frustrated by the lack of clear help teaching me how to
break off my affair for good.
Nobody was telling me “HOW” to let go completely;
and I didn’t know that I was also doing many things that was keeping me stuck.
And help written just for the woman who’s had the affair?
Almost non-existent..especially 13 years ago.
So I created a program that will help women learn how to get free of their affair,
and how to fully cut ties to their affair partner.
This is more than a post on how to break it off.
This is a full 4 week course called:
“How To End Your Affair & Reclaim Your Life.”
A recovery plan and support group,
created just for women who are ready to take
back their life, and have peace again.
We have 2 tracks, one that opens 2x a year with support group,
and one that is always available to take on your own.
click here for more information
- Inside you’ll learn the step-by-step tools and lessons
to start changing your mindset around the affair.
and recognize what has kept you bound. - Understand what you’re up against with the neuroscience of affairs
and learn important tips to break Limerence,
and separate the truth from the lies from the affair. - In another module, you’ll start understanding and resolving
cognitive dissonance, and why there’s been confusion around
what to do. - Finally gain control of your thoughts and feelings,
and learn how to stop the obsessive thought looping about him
that has kept you going back in the past. - Start recognizing the sub-conscious beliefs that have kept you tied to him
and how to replace those with healthy ones. - Learn the 3 most important things to do to get free, the practical steps to ending it
the right way, if you haven’t already and how to detox from him and
get past the affair withdrawal and grief that are normal, without getting stuck in it. - Lastly, you’ll learn the myths, excuses and warning signs of a potential relapse- so you
can make different choices and learn to get through urges the right way- not willpowering it. - We explore faith’s role in healing your soul and how to renew your mind,
and you’ll end the course with a solid recovery plan.
The 22 video slide lessons and 100+ worksheets
(assignments, journal prompts, checklists etc)
will help you retain what you’re learning-
as you watch and listen and dive deeper-
to implement the things you’re learning to make lasting changes.
All this within a supportive, private group of women–
who are going through the course with you.
We connect via a private Facebook group and the Marco Polo App.
You’ll learn that you’re not alone in any of these feelings,
and there really is hope for a better future then what you’ve settled for.
If you’re ready to get off the cycle and regain your honor, peace and self-respect…
why not take the steps today to learn the tools you need to break free of the affair for good?
You are worth so much more than being in an affair, my friend.
You are better than that and there is hope to stop it.
This class is only offered a few times a year.
If you missed our class sign ups, be sure to be your name on the waiting list and you’ll
know right away when the next class begins!
