Welcome friend, I’m so very glad you’re here!
Hi, I’m Debbie. I’m the founder of this site ‘After My Affair’.
Twelve years ago, I betrayed my husband in a way I never thought I could,
I had an extramarital affair.
My husband and I were eventually beautifully healed and restored
through God’s grace, tons of hard work and time.
It took about 2-3 years (after our true ‘ground zero’) where we were finally past
the worst of it. We’d moved to Colorado, and 6 months later I was told I had breast cancer.
Just as we were heading out of the worst time of our lives, we entered another storm.
The storm of breast cancer pulled us together though, and we found comfort in God’s
presence in the hard places in life.
I learned a lot of very hard and painful lessons through that season in my life.
And my husband and I also learned how easy it is to take our beautiful marriage for granted,
by letting the enemy of our souls to get even a small foothold in.
Honestly, the breast cancer we walked through was nothing compared to the infidelity.
So, just know that I understand how terrible of a storm you’re in right now, if you’re facing infidelity.
Whether it be yours as an unfaithful wife; or your storm as a betrayed husband or betrayed wife.
At the time of my affair, we had spent 19 happy years building a marriage and family…and we almost lost it all.
Today we are restored and healed in a way that only God could have done, and we just celebrated 31 years of marriage.
Our 3 boys are grown (we are even grandparents now), and we get to experience the joy of grandparenting together! What a blessing!
Yet, this site isn’t really about me.
My story is just meant to encourage you, and give you hope
that there is a better life for you.
Because this site exists for you, my friend.
I truly care about what you’re going through, because I faced it myself.
I don’t know what led you here, but whatever it may be, just that know you’re not alone. If you were unfaithful in your marriage,
I hope you’ll find this to be a safe place to have hope that there is a way out of the confusion and pain you may be feeling.
Maybe you don’t feel confused; maybe you just want out of your marriage… please know that I understand that too.
Affairs are deceptive; they can make us think a new life, with someone else, will be better than our old one.
But it’s just not true. It’s the affair fog talking, which I explain so much in many of my posts.
You’ve taken such a brave step toward healing by searching for answers and support.
I’d love to support you on your journey.
We’re a growing group of women here, seeking ways to heal and have our souls, and
our marriages, healed and restored.
(We’d love to have you join our facebook group- ‘AMA Women.‘ We purposely don’t say ‘Affair’ in it. You can join privately here today).
(Or, click the facebook icon on the top of this page).
You were meant for better things; for a life of purpose and meaning.
You can email me at [email protected] and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.
Don’t try to do this alone.
I’d love to give you a gift.
Are you having a hard time truly ending the affair?
Be sure to get my “No Contact Anti-Cheat Sheet” to help guide you step by step on the essentials of ending contact with your affair partner.
you can subscribe to get it at the top turquoise banner you hopefully see at the top of this page.
If you want to know more about our marriage story, you can go here.