Welcome friend, I’m so very glad you’re here!
Hi, I’m Debbie.
I’m the founder of this site ‘After My Affair’.
Yea, the name kinda gives it away.
I’m well acquainted with failure;
but equally grateful for God’s grace & forgiveness.
I know what a marriage on the brink feels like,
and one that’s beautifully restored.
The second one is way better…
Can you relate?
- Are you a woman, even a Christian woman, who had an affair and now feel like you’ve lost yourself?
- Do you feel all alone- suffering through this trial in shame?
- Do you wonder if you’ll ever be able to get free of your past, and keep repeating the same cycles?
- Are you losing hope that your marriage can survive this?
- Do you long to know God more, but wonder how He can ever forgive you for this?
I really do understand this battle you’re in. I’ve felt every one of those things myself.
13 years ago, I did what I thought I was never capable of doing- I was unfaithful to my husband.
We’d been married 19 years at the time with 3 children.
I was a stay at home Mom, and a Christian woman with strong values, I thought.
I’d always been a ‘good, rule following girl’.
We’d always had a good marriage, but after a vulnerable season in my life and marriage,
I allowed myself to slowly slide into an inappropriate friendship that turned into an affair for about a year.
The shame was unbearable, and it almost destroyed me.
I hated what I’d done, and didn’t understand how I got myself into such a terrible situation.
I soon confessed the affair to my husband, but my inability to stop the affair at first meant my marriage was on the brink of divorce, until my eyes were opened.
God eventually showed me the precious family I was ready to lose, in exchange for the fantasy life that was destroying me.
We decided to give our marriage a second chance and I fought with everything in me to do whatever it took to save my marriage,
and help my husband heal from what I’d done.
It was hard work, but we recovered. My husband found the strength to forgive me and now, 13 years later, we’re completely restored in trust and love. 
You can read more about it in
my free e-book that you can download here
In it you’ll read more about our personal story
PLUS the 20 tips and steps I share that you can take
to begin restoring your own marriage after infidelity.
I realized we couldn’t have been the only ones going through this painful experience.
So, I decided to share my story publicly.
Yet, this site isn’t really about me.
My story is just meant to encourage you, and give you hope that there is a better life for you.
Because this site exists for you, my friend.
Shame and guilt doesn’t have to keep you suffering alone anymore.
There is help and support for you.
I wanted to create a way to help women who were the unfaithful spouse, just as I was once.
Yes, It’s more common to hear things written just for the unfaithful husband, and not the unfaithful WIFE.
So that’s what this site is here for.
I wanted to find a way to reach all the women who have had an affair, (and the numbers are growing),
but are looking for information written just for them.
If you’re here as the betrayed husband, my husband also understands what you are going through,
which is why I have a whole section of posts devoted to you, that I add to frequently.
Support and help for women who were unfaithful.
Two options for you:
1. You can go through my course:
“How to end your affair & reclaim your life.”
Right now the course is only $97
Learn more about the course here
OR,
2. Once a year I open a course/support group called “ReBloom”;
Rebloom will help give you practical tools to walk through your affair recovery,
and also how to help your marriage heal.
For those women in the next stage of their affair recovery, after the affair is over and
you need guidance in how to heal!
If you’d like to be put on the waiting list to become part of this wonderful membership community-
then Click here to learn more about it and get on the list to join if it’s currently closed!
Did you read my note to you and more blog posts here?
If you want to know more about our marriage story, you can go here.
If you’re looking for information about restoring your marriage, click here.