Welcome friend, I’m so very glad you’re here!
Hi, I’m Debbie.
I’m the founder of this site ‘After My Affair’.
Yea, the name kinda gives it away.
I’m well acquainted with failure;
but equally grateful for God’s grace & forgiveness.
I know what a marriage on the brink feels like,
and one that’s beautifully restored.
The second one is way better…
Can you relate?
- Are you a woman, even a Christian woman, who had an affair and now feel like you’ve lost yourself?
- Do you feel all alone- suffering through this trial in shame?
- Do you wonder if you’ll ever be able to get free of your past, and keep repeating the same cycles?
- Are you losing hope that your marriage can survive this?
- Do you long to know God more, but wonder how He can ever forgive you for this?
I really do understand this battle you’re in. I’ve felt every one of those things myself.
13 years ago, I did what I thought I was never capable of doing- I was unfaithful to my husband.
We’d been married 19 years at the time with 3 children.
I was a stay at home Mom, and a Christian woman with strong values, I thought.
I’d always been a ‘good, rule following girl’.
We’d always had a good marriage, but after a vulnerable season in my life and marriage,
I allowed myself to slowly slide into an inappropriate friendship that turned into an affair for about a year.
The shame was unbearable, and it almost destroyed me.
I hated what I’d done, and didn’t understand how I got myself into such a terrible situation.
I soon confessed the affair to my husband, but my inability to stop the affair at first meant my marriage was on the brink of divorce, until my eyes were opened.
God eventually showed me the precious family I was ready to lose, in exchange for the fantasy life that was destroying me.
We decided to give our marriage a second chance and I fought with everything in me to do whatever it took to save my marriage,
and help my husband heal from what I’d done.
You can read more about it in
my free e-book that you can download here
In it you’ll read more about our personal story
PLUS the 20 tips and steps I share that you can take
to begin restoring your own marriage after infidelity.
I realized we couldn’t have been the only ones going through this painful experience.
So, I decided to share my story publicly.
Yet, this site isn’t really about me.
My story is just meant to encourage you, and give you hope that there is a better life for you.
Because this site exists for you, my friend.
Shame and guilt doesn’t have to keep you suffering alone anymore.
There is help and support for you.
I wanted to create a way to help women who were the unfaithful spouse, just as I was once.
Yes, It’s more common to hear things written just for the unfaithful husband, and not the unfaithful WIFE.
So that’s what this site is here for.
I wanted to find a way to reach all the women who have had an affair, (and the numbers are growing),
but are looking for information written just for them.
Support and help for women who were unfaithful.
1. Join our private Community of (recovering)
Unfaithful Wives supporting each other on Facebook.
This is where you’ll find me, and many other kindhearted women in recovery from their own affairs.
It’s a growing group of women, seeking ways to heal our souls,
and our marriages, and learn to live a life of meaning and purpose.
(We’d love to have you join our facebook group- ‘AMA Women.‘
We purposely don’t say ‘Affair’ or infidelity in the description anywhere.
You can request to join privately here today- please answers the questions to validate first).
Please note* We don’t accept new FB accounts, so you can join with your current account and then
let Debbie know you’re creating a new one, if that makes you feel more comfortable.
Also, this is just for the unfaithful wife (not the betrayed), who wants to make the changes necessary to come out
of their affair, even if you don’t know how and need support.
2. Join our brand new membership community “ReBloom”-
For those women in the next stage of their affair recovery!
Our brand new private membership community is for women who already
ended their affair, and have no desire to go back, but you still need connection & support
from other women who’ve been there.
Our focus is on community, connection and supporting with each other,
with a separate Facebook group, lessons and videos withing our learning paths centered around a specific topic
(to help in your personal healing, faith and restoring your marriage). You’ll have access to our
members only podcast, live coaching calls, Marco Polo accountability groups and many other features
If you’d like to be put on the waiting list to become part of this wonderful membership community-
then Click here to learn more about it and get on the list to join if it’s currently closed!
3. Work with me 1:1 with Mentoring Coaching Calls.
My faith based principles and compassionate yet honest methods will take you from
feeling stuck and alone to having a clear path to get to the results you need.
I’ve been where you are, and found the way to get free and experience restoration in my life and marriage..
I believe that’s possible for you also, if you’re ready!
You can learn more about this on my main website here and
schedule a coaching call with me.
Did you read my note to you and more blog posts here?
If you want to know more about our marriage story, you can go here.
If you’re looking for information about restoring your marriage, click here.
“Debbie appreciates hearing from you, but due to the amount of e-mails Debbie receives she’s not able to personally respond to every inquiry,
she currently tries to be most active responding to questions in her private Facebook group & membership site community”.