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Affair Recovery For Women Who Had An Affair
How did nice girls like us end up in messes like this?
I asked myself this question, when I was trying to
untangle from my affair & the mess it created in my life.
You’ve probably wondered how you ended up here too;
with your life is spiraling so quickly out of control,
yet feeling like you’re unable to make any lasting changes.
I get it, girlfriend.
But it doesn’t have to be this way anymore.
If you’re really ready to change the direction your life is heading…don’t delay another day.
You’re more than this affair, and it doesn’t have to define you for the rest of your life.
Isn’t it time to lay down that red letter of shAme that feels tattooed on your soul,
and finally learn the tools, steps and gather the support to not only end the affair-
but then be restored in your spirit, mind and marriage too?
I know this is a confusing time for you, and it’s hard to make decisions about who to trust
to help you through the difficult stages of affair recovery you’re going through.
I believe you can get through this affair, but since most people don’t know
how to heal after an affair, many will need some help.
So, let’s talk specifically about how I can help you through this very painful time in your life;
and then I’ll answer why to consider working with me.
You can also scroll to the bottom of this page for testimonials from women I’ve worked with.
How to work with me; the help I offer.
1. My free content on this website.
With over 150 blog posts covering all stages of affair recovery- primarily for
wayward wives and their husbands- and answering many questions people have,
you’re sure to find some help and guidance here.
I have 5 different categories of topics for you to find posts on.
- Blog posts for the unfaithful wife (my main readers).
- Blog posts for the betrayed husband.
- Posts about rebuilding a marriage after infidelity.
- Information and articles about affairs.
- Faith & Spiritual healing articles.
2. Take my “End Your Affair Course”.
I remember when I was trying to end my affair, but feeling so stuck in the back and forth cycle,
saying “why doesn’t someone tell me HOW to end this affair?”
Do you relate?
There’s so much more information & videos then I could put on this website,
so I’ve incorporated those tools, and many others,
in my “End Your Affair Course”
(or EYA as I call it for my students).
It’s a unique course that is unlike any other out there-
to help you end your affair for good.
We talk about:
- How to stop the obsessive thoughts about your AP.
- How to let go by giving you practical ways to do that.
- The subconscious mind and beliefs- and how that’s keeping you stuck.
- The most important things you must do when breaking free.
- What to do with urges & how to prevent relapse once it’s over…
and so much more!
I have 2 tracts for my course:
A. One is with a support group offered 2x/year only,
of other women where we meet weekly in a group coaching call,
a temporary Facebook group and Marco Polo group for accountability.
B. One is a private, self-paced course you can purchase now,
with all the same videos and worksheets as the other-
but without the additional support group.
*This works great for many women who can’t wait for the support group version to open,
and who don’t want to pay the additional price for that.
3. Mentorship Coaching with Debbie.
This is one on one coaching via phone (or Zoom or Facetime audio).
I call it mentorship coaching because I will come alongside you as a mentor
and someone who’s personally experienced infidelity- to help you gain clarity
of the next steps to take to get to whatever the goal is for your life.
Coaching calls are 50 minutes for $70.
Click Here for more information about coaching services, and to schedule.
4. Rebloom: A private membership site for women who were unfaithful.
I created “Rebloom” to be an extra level of community and support for those women who’ve had an affair,
but are now ready to move forward in their healing,
(going much deeper than we can in the AMA Women Facebook group).
These women have ended their affairs, but still need guidance & support for the the next stages of their recovery.
We do this within a separate Facebook group, Marco Polo groups where they really connect on deeper levels,
and a course type members portal of lessons.
The Rebloom members portal of lessons is laid out in the 5 stages of affair recovery.
They can access the lessons that apply to their stage of recovery;
each deal with the most common challenges they’ll face personally-
and with their husbands and in restoring their marriage.
It’s only open once per year, so if it’s currently closed- you can put your name on the waitlist and you’ll
be among the first to know when we re-open the doors.
There is nothing like it anywhere.
Don’t miss out! Here’s the link to learn more about Rebloom!
5. AMA Women; a free, private Facebook group for women who were unfaithful.
As mentioned, AMA Women is my private Facebook group only for women who’ve had an affair.
Many times, nobody else knows about the affair, and that can be a hard burden to carry alone.
This is the place to come when you know you’ve got to make some serious changes,
a place for support and encouragement to do the hard things, and even some tough love at times-
all to help you get to the place of peace in your life.
My requirements for joining is to answer all the questions, and to not have a brand new FB account
(to protect the integrity of the group and privacy of my members-however, you can join with your regular
account first and once I validate who you are can join with a new account if you let me know that you’re a current member).
You’ll see this in the request to join questions:
U.Wife= Unfaithful Wife…this group is only for those women who’ve had an affair.
B.Wife= Betrayed Wife; sorry but this is not the group for you if you’re in that category.
I’m also currently working on a course for:
“how to heal your own soul, and your marriage, after your affair.”
It will cover:
-Understanding why it happened-so it never does again,
-Important action steps to take after ending the affair,
-The specific challenges Betrayed Husbands have,
-understanding the common roadblocks and how to get past them,
-how to let go of the past, healing from the shame, inspire his forgiveness and
-how to earn back his trust and rebuild your marriage…and so much more!
So if you’d like to be on my waiting list for that-
just shoot me an email with the subject line: ‘waiting list for new course’.
And just let me know your name and that you’d like to be on my waiting list
for the new Affair Recovery Course for Unfaithful Wives.
You’ll be among the first to know when doors open!
Why work with me?
1. I’m a woman who has personally been through my own infidelity.
No, I’m not proud of that- but I’ve decided to put my own shame and reputation aside,
to share my story online so I can help other women like yourself,
because I remember how alone I felt after my affair.
I never want other women to suffer alone, trying to recover from their affair, like I did.
There’s not a lot of help written specifically for unfaithful wives,
as so much is geared toward men who ‘cheated’- or betrayed wives.
Unfortunately, there’s a growing number of women who are straying from their marriages,
but the amount of help for wayward wives has not caught up.
But there are many ways that it’s very different being the unfaithful wife,
and you deserve to know how to heal that is unique to you as a woman…
and also how to help your betrayed husband heal,
which is often very different than what a betrayed wife needs to know.
You can read more about my story here.
2. My compassion and understanding has grown through first hand experience.
Sometimes experience is the best teacher, and there’s no greater way of gaining compassion for
another woman’s pain and struggle than having gone through it yourself.
Although I don’t have letters after my name, and I didn’t learn all about recovering from an affair
from a textbook or course, I learned it the hardest way imaginable- by going through it myself.
I know how desperate it feels to be a woman who is struggling to end the affair.
I remember the simple response I got from counselors who told me (often in frustration)
to just end the affair, without telling me HOW to do it.
Healing from an affair is the hardest thing I’ve ever done personally, and
for my marriage.
But that has given me a depth of compassion I’m certain I would never
have, if I didn’t walk through this myself.
I also understand addiction and recovery principles first hand;
I was inpatient at The Betty Ford Center in 2006 for alcohol abuse.
(Later, I was also on staff there).
Affairs are addictive and many of the recovery principles you need to know,
to get free of your affair, are understood when you’ve been in recovery yourself.
I’ve learned a lot about recovery, which is incorporated in some of my teachings,
when it’s needed.
3. I am a believer & follower of Christ.
This may or may not be a benefit for you, and I understand if it isn’t.
But I also know there are other Christian women who have fallen into the sin of adultery,
and if you’re anything like me- my shame was greater because of it.
All I could think about was “I knew better, I’d walked with Jesus and had a beautiful
relationship with Him before. How could I do this?”
Frankly, the shame of that kept me from experiencing the grace of His forgiveness for a long time.
Until I realized, how could I NOT accept His forgiveness?
Did I think I was a ‘special case’ of bad that His forgiveness couldn’t reach?
He set me free from the chains of my affair, healed my marriage,
and helped me see how deep His love is for me;
this is the truth I stand on when shame tries to rob my joy.
I want you to experience that freedom and love too.
The principles I teach on are based on the principles in the bible,
but whether you share my faith or not, you will learn necessary truths
to help you recover from this affair, without feeling it’s forced on you.
4. I can help you learn how to help your husband and marriage heal.
I didn’t take the easy way out and end up marrying my affair partner-
like the ‘affair fog thoughts’ told me to in the beginning.
Although my marriage almost didn’t survive the affair 13 years ago, and it looked hopeless-
as yours might look right now- we stayed together and rebuilt a stronger marriage.
So, I have firsthand knowledge of what I did wrong, and what we finally did right,
to turn our marriage around, rebuild trust and truly have a renewed marriage of over
32 years now.
I know not every marriage is going to recover from an affair.
Some husbands will not be able to forgive or move past this, and I realize that.
But far too many couples give up too soon.
Wouldn’t you prefer to know you did all you could to fight for your marriage now,
instead of later wishing you’d done more?
5. I’ve worked with hundreds of women, guiding them through the healing process.
When I finally accepted God’s call to help other women out of the pain of their affair, I went all in.
I started this blog back in 2016 to reach women who were ready to face the shame of what they’d done,
and offer some guidance and hope.
So, in addition to my own experience, I’ve taken coaching classes & studied
everything I could about affair recovery for women who had the affair and
how to help husbands heal, who were betrayed.
In January 2019, I started my private Facebook group to have a safe place for women to come
and be supported in doing the right thing, while knowing they are not alone.
Thousands of women have gone through the AMA Women Facebook group
(women stay while struggling and some move on when they’ve gotten better).
I’ve worked one on one with many women, coaching them to end their affair and
the necessary steps to rebuild their marriage and it’s the most rewarding thing to hear
them get through the hardest stages to come out on the other side.
There are many obstacles and ups and downs during this recovery process;
but I’m a firm believer that nobody should have to do recovery alone.
Support is here for you- if you’re ready to truly reclaim your life.
Wherever you are in your affair recovery journey,
I want you to have hope that YOU CAN get through this!
I’d be honored to guide you through that road to recovery to first end your affair so you can then
regain your peace, reclaim your honor,
and learn to do everything you can to help your husband heal and rebuild your marriage.
Become the woman you were created to be!
Kind words from women I’ve worked with
“Rebloom has been a light for me during the darkest season in my life. Debbie’s knowledge of the recovery process has helped me gain a better understanding of the turmoil my husband is experiencing, has given me insight into my “why”, and is helping me regain my footing in life. Where once I felt so isolated from my shame, now I have a community of women who understand everything I am going through. Every time I hit a shame spiral or begin to lose hope, my new-found friends are there to help me pick up the pieces.
The love, understanding, and advice I have received from Debbie and the other “Rebloomers” has been immeasurable.”
“I would definitely have to say that finding Debbie Rose’s AMA recovery info leading into Rebloom has been one of the most significantly helpful therapies in my healing after my affair!!
In all honesty; I felt doomed, extreme shame, and terrified in every way right after my A and days after as well.
I truly believe God led me to Debbie and Rebloom!!! I appreciate everybody’s honesty and vulnerability in the group and it helps me to feel comfortable sharing whenever I need to!!
Rebloom is definitely my favorite therapy as a whole for all it offers. Debbie is definitely a God Sent angel to me and the other ladies!!”
“ReBloom is a wonderful Christian platform that has given me the guidance during the struggles of my affair recovery.
ReBloom is all encompassing and there is something for any woman who wants to stay married after her affair.
The support and guidance from Debbie, who has successfully navigated through the bumpy road of recovery has helped me with understanding that with God’s help, I too, can have peace in my relationship with my husband. But first, I must start with myself and being the best person I can be. I have always struggled with daily devotionals and keeping God the center of my life and marriage. Thank you, Debbie, for all hard work and vulnerability to put all this together!”
Women who took the End Your Affair (EYA) course:
“This program gave me the resources and support I needed to truly make the change I was seeking in my life.
Going through the 4-week course was an invaluable way to break out of my affair once and for all. And I have already found myself reaching back for Debbie’s tools as I continue my healing journey. I learned early on that having an affair and living a life of lies is very lonely. Sharing this healing work with a group of kind-hearted women who know exactly what I’m going through has been amazing.”
“I would encourage anyone looking to end an affair and to move on in their life to do this course.
Debbie gives you the tools, understanding, support and encouragement to truly end your affair for good and to start the walk into a new life of freedom and integrity.
I personally enjoyed all the lessons and the amazing support of all of the group members. Debbie, gently guided us through each week of the course – giving advice and gentle leading where necessary – her love and concern for all the group members was evident.
I was so nervous to sign up to this course but it is the best thing I could possibly have done – worth every penny!”
“The BEST course that WORKS out of all the 20 affair recovery books I’ve read- the intensive one on one therapist sessions, my daily 2-hour read of other people’s affair stories, my church sessions, addict recovery group, and possibly all the other online affair recovery resources I could find.
Debbie’s was the most user friendly and comprehensive course. This course touched many subjects. This course also was the ONE course that got me to end contact with my affair partner FOR GOOD after many prior painful relapses. Besides, its beautiful design makes the time doing the course such a treat.
The weekly check in calls, the real time Marco Polo group and the sisters support group are so valuable. Life-changing.”
“One of my favorite things about you (Debbie) was the first time we talked… how kind and encouraging you were to me.
You uplifted me and showed me I was still worthy of Gods favor and love of which many can be judgmental about & a person can start feeling pretty down and worthless pretty quickly…
you are such a blessing.”
“Thank you so much for talking to me on Friday. It was one of the best if not the best conversations about this I have had. I am keeping hope so much you don’t know.
However everything you said is true. I seem to have a lot of peace for some reason today – I think because I feel validated after talking to you and I just know like I know
through my whole body that this has to work out for me and our family.”
“I just wanted to express that you didn’t waste the time you gave to me. Something about the way you said certain things was exactly what my heart was able to receive.
I also think knowing you’ve personally been where I’m at now also helped me hear you. Every single thing you said had some sort of value to my situation and mindset.
I didn’t have to sift through to find the gems. You are very wise, and very in tune with the matters of the heart. I’m glad God has you where He does, helping other women.”
Member of AMA Women Private Facebook Group and readers of this AMA Website:
“I’m close to one month no contact and I’d like to share some things I’ve learned. Debbie Rose is an absolute life saver for so many women,
and through one of the biggest mistakes in her life, with the help of God, she has created such a beauty. This group is where we can feel we aren’t alone.
Heed every bit of her advice…if you want to find peace again, follow her advice and yes, I know easier said than done.
Thank you Debbie for bringing this group of strong, beautiful slightly broken women to each other.”
“I can’t talk to my friends and family who might judge me. The only people that know how I feel are the women who know exactly what it feels like cuz they’ve gone
through it. This group is a blessing. I’m so glad to have this group where everyone knows exactly how I feel.”
“I spent hours and hours looking for help online because I felt so low and hopeless. I really needed help but there was virtually nothing. So much advice for the
betrayed spouses. I can’t begin to describe how I felt when I came across Debbie’s online posts, then found the AMA Women FB group. There is so little help
for the unfaithful wife, coping with the grief/loss was crippling me and the shame, fear of judgment and lack of understanding meant I couldn’t talk to anyone.
So thank you.”